Simple Thoughts on Good Friends vs True Friends: Are They Different?

Good Friends vs True Friends

People make friends anywhere they want. If they don’t get to face-to-face friendship, if they cannot reach the outside world to look for friends, they always have social media apps to find online circles. The most beautiful thing is, both online and offline world can get you some good friends and even true friends.

I’ve made a lot of online friends on different apps; and the more friends I got, the more often I wonder about the friendship I’ve made. In my mind, I’ll be like are they good? Are they true? Which ones are good and true?

Before I sleep, I frequently think about the existing friendship labels like good friends, true friends, best friends, etc. So far, the good friends and true friends have intrigued me the most, as they both are not opposed to each other bud still slightly different.

If you want to evaluate how good and how true your friends have been, my list of simple thoughts below might help. But, after figuring out your type of friends, don’t forget to return the same to them! If you think they’re your good friends, then you need to be as good. If they’re your true friends, you need to be as true. Friendship is healthy when the comforts are provided from both sides.Simple Thoughts on Good Friends vs True Friends

Good friends and true friends are both real and genuine. They are shaped by the two-sided deep knowing, understanding, respect, kindness, love and closeness. However, good friends can be not true to me, while true friends goodness are more guaranteed. The main reason is, someone’s kindness (as a good friend) can turn into biased, means that they use their heart to hide whatever mistake you or they have just to show up that you both are good together.

Let me use my story to make this understandable. I will not write the entire story here, but I’ll just type the part that helps you understand my simple thoughts.

Long time ago, I had some good online friends that knew my misunderstanding with a group of people. I told them that I was the wrong one, not that other group of friends. So, I asked them not to make the problem bigger since it’s useless. You know what they said?

“We stay on your side no matter what, Dhawy. You are our friend, so we make things right for you and defend you.”

See, they were really good, right? From that part of story, we learn that good friends are supportive, heart warming, comforting and kinda protective. But, can’t you see that they made a wrong coverage?

They forgot to be wise. They even wanted to hide my mistake to make an image of how good I was / we were. If they were true friends, they will treat you well without forgetting the right and wrong. If they were true friends, they must have acted wiser; they must have embraced and admitted all the facts instead of making a conflict worse.

So, y’all got my simple thoughts now. What I do next is dropping down more of them.

• Good friends defend you even if they unintentionally dramatize your problem / conflict. Meanwhile, true friends are supporting with no biased coverage.
• Good friends accept your good and bad, but they still possibly overtolerate them. Meanwhile, true friends offer you embrace and eventually make you accept yourself.
• Good friends want to connect with you all the time. They might be afraid to lose you. True friends are more chill; they know when to follow, connect, leave, and reconnect.
• Good friends may find it a little bit awkward to see you again after some period of time. True friends never feels any change around you, even after they disappear for decades.
• Both good friends and true friends are able to cheer you up.
• Both good friends and true friends make you feel needed and wanted.
• Both good friends and true friends don’t lie.
• Both good friends and true friends use their hearts to listen and react. That means, they are empathetic.

Closing Statement

I have shared my simple thoughts on good friends vs true friends. After organizing my simple thoughts and writing them, I get to answer my own question about the friendship I’ve got. I’ve been having some true friends (online), as many as my good friends from all the apps I’m in. And I believe, you and me can always value the gift of those friends by not hurting them in every way.

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