Simple Thoughts on Reconnecting with Old Hobbies: Know Your Before and After 

Everyone thinks the real joy in life is when we get to do what we love. I really agree on this, but life doesn’t always agree with us. What mostly happens is, responsibilities take over our days until we no longer have time for passion. Life seems to be always busy, and it makes people not know how to reconnect with old hobbies.

People know that they are in needs to reconnect with their old hobbies. But, not many of them understands the fact that we can always reconnect with old hobbies no matter how busy, as long as we know our before and after. In that lack of knowingness of what to do before and after the reconnection process, most people find it hard to give a start and end up not coming back at all. Also, for those who are already getting reconnected, the game isn’t over yet. With the same low awareness level, they might be facing one of the situations below.

• Unable to make as same enough time each day

These people have uncertain busy life. If they start relaxing by 3 PM on Mondays, things aren’t done at the same hour the next days since there’s more taking up their time. If you are one of them, please consider choosing your most free day before getting into hobbies again.

If you don’t manage to make the same enough time each day, then try making plan using different pattern like above. Out of all busy days in your life, which ones are the most free? Choose your most free day, do your hobby only on that day. Weekly practice is worth trying; it minimizes your boredom.

• Not knowing what exactly they want to achieve

After setting time, you need to set a goal before starting to reconnect. Think about the outcome you try to pursue again. Is it just stress release or something more serious?

After setting a goal, you understand how far you can polish your skills. You understand what step to take before and after you completely reconnect. Your understanding enables you to maintain your connection until you have that goal in hands.

• Cannot reach their own unreasonable expectations

Some people may find expectation’s help them to stay motivated. However, it can be damaging to have unrealistic expectations. When you’re not able to reach them, you’ll naturally feel useless, falsely conclude failure, and automatically shut down your own goals.

I remember my first times being a virtual event host. I had this expectation: “everyone likes the way I host”. But then, only some of them said they did.

I truly became desperate and felt bad, but what did I get? Nothing but the fact that we cannot please everyone! Nothing but the fact that we aren’t that strong to make such a high level of control!

Sometimes, you can’t easily detect if any of your expectations are against the reality. Therefore, don’t blame yourself when your experience reveals the complete opposite. It simply means, you need to be resilient and replace them with the more reachable things. Moreover, when you feel your heart warns about unrealistic current expectations, please replace them before they hurt you.

• Being stopped by other’s judgment and criticism

Back to my points above. We can’t make everyone happy with what we do. People’s reactions are out of our control, so we better not allow ourselves to get affected.

Educate yourself before starting things off. Know that judgment and criticism are feedback, and receiving feedback doesn’t show someone’s incapability. Only your own efforts will tell the world if you’re competent enough or if you’re that ready to be a competent one. So, what will you do after being judged and criticized?

Know Your Before and After

I bet most of you expect me sharing either tips or guides to rebuild a personal relationship with whatever old passions you have, and the tips must be containing some kind of routines like practice at least 5-15 minutes each day, join  courses / participate in some related projects, find a supportive environment, etc. Come on, we have internet now, and a lot of writers take the same angle to show up on their writings. They have plenty of recommendation in what activity you can do to reconnect. But me, I’m spotlighting the importance of knowing your before and after so you understand what to do to let you stay on track.

To me, knowing what to do before and after the reconnection must be a key to get you the right direction. When you understand what, where, when, why, and how to start and keep going with things you’ve started, you will not get overwhelmed by all the things coming your way. By knowing what to do before and after reconnecting, your mind sorts out recommendations for which method you can take to reconnect yourself with old hobbies.